My wife, daughter, and younger son will be flying overseas in a few weeks to see my wife's parents. My wife's father developed a degenerative disease a couple of years ago, and there has naturally been an increased emphasis on meeting her parents since then. We did so twice at a geographic middle ground for both sides, but his condition is now such that we need to travel to their home to meet them.

As implied above, however, Anthony and I will be not be going. Earlier airplane flights with him led us to realize that, even with medication, he will not make it very long without becoming disruptive or at least making his presence unwelcome to other passengers. Anthony is also far too much trouble to ask relatives to watch for more than a few hours, and none have the time available to deal with him for several days regardless. We considered looking for a group home for him so that I could join my wife and other children. If we successfully placed him, though, we would not be in the position to return quickly to address potential issues such as Anthony seriously hurting other people or himself. Perhaps more importantly, a normal child would not be happy being handed over for a period to people he doesn't know. Maybe Anthony's cognitive ability is sufficient that he would not be happy, either.